I don’t think I’ve ever had this conversation on the blog before.
Timothy confession here: I’ve never slept with a straight guy
(or a woman). All my readers out there have such a breadth of diverse
experiences. There is so much you could teach me.
Click here to read Chapter 14 of Say Goodbye to Sparkleland.
That said, I feel there are a TON of teenage boys that
experiment and explore with each other, even straight ones. When you’re young,
there are just so many questions, and if you are lucky enough to have a
good friend to help you figure them out, then … that’s a gift in my opinion.
I don’t know if straight men regret doing so after they are grown and married. Is it a “I can’t believe I did that!” moment, or is it simply assumed to be a part of growing up? I really have no idea. I haven’t actually interviewed straight people about it. Life is full of regrets; is that one of them?
Drunk or not, I’m sure it happens among adults too. A close friend of mine had sex with another man, although he has no idea I know. This other man was married to a woman, but he considered himself to be “highly sexed” (his term), whatever that means. I found this out after he had a couple of drinks and propositioned me. (I didn’t accept.)
As mentioned in Soulmate's drive home for Spring Break, the boys mentioned that nebulous scale between 100 percent gay and 100 percent straight. I totally believe there are people at the extreme ends. But I do believe among the public, there are people that are a little away from the signposts. A close friendship or a particularly handsome individual might just cause people to imagine things that typically wouldn't. I think that's a part of being human. But, hey, that could just be me.
And, of course, alcohol can always lower inhibitions to where people act on feelings in the moment.
So, has anyone out there been involved with a straight guy
before? What kind of things did he say following? I’m all ears.
Lots of them. They tend to justify their behaviour as they are not scared of the act, hence why it was so dangerous during the AIDS era, but more of people finding out, being lonely, losing friends and family. Now if I think the guy has a partner I ask him straight up and make the decision to proceed or not. I do get the usual oh wife won't swallow. To the story, Mitch's experiences make me like him a lot more.
ReplyDeleteI have never slept with a married man nor did I have a relationship, man or woman, while I was married. I have always tried not to be judgmental of those who do but I am ashamed of how judgmental I was towards Mitchell. You always make me think when reading your stories.
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I see Mitchell in a different light now after this chapter, but he still cheated. I feel empathy for the poor guy. All he wants is someone to love and be loved and yet when he had that he blew it. Thank you for a wonderful chapter.
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